Finding Motivation if You’ve Lost it

I know I’m not the only one out there who second-guesses myself. Or looses motivation, or focus, or drive. I refuse to believe that everyone is always as happy as their Facebook says they are. (Some people on the other hand–well we all know who they are–…they tell Facebook everything.)

Don’t get me wrong, I am happy! I really only post things and get stuff done when I’m happy and motivated. But…. Ever feel like you’re loosing sight of what you want?

From my experience, there is a relatively easy fix to that. And it’s never too late to reset your thinking again and again. It’s never too late to find your motivation again. It’s never too late to reach your dreams and goals. Unless you’re dead. Then it’s obviously too late.

The other night, I had a strange dream. It was almost an awful nightmare, but it had a weird, ethereal feeling to it. I was pursued and shot three times in my dream and I was dead, but still conscious. The reason I’m telling you this is because I think it can be seen as a positive thing. I think the dream signified a new beginning. Kind of like a rebirth.

I admit, I had a breakdown a week ago because I thought I was loosing sight of myself. It was a breakdown that had been coming for a while. I thought something was lost in my transition to living in New York on my own; my transition to being a financially responsible adult.

You want to know what I did? I sought advice from the one person who knows me best, my mom. In my opinion, seeking advice from someone you trust and who knows you well is one of the first steps to tackling your hurdle. I always go to my mom when I’m feeling down. My mom reminded me what I’ve accomplished in both my childhood as well as my more recent years, all the way up to getting myself to New York.

If you’re just not feeling it, remind yourself of how awesome you are!

Ok, you are awesome! You were motivated, driven, you were going to high places! So, what happened? No, you’re not defective, you’re still the same awesome person you were. You might have lost something, but that’s just an obstacle to overcome. This is just one more challenge for you to tackle with your awesome self. C’mon, you’ve tackled problems before! Tackle whatever it is you’re facing as a hurdle rather than a defect or character flaw.

Maybe you’re not motivated enough to tackle the problem, which is why you’ve got the problem in the first place. That’s ok, you don’t need to be motivated to get stuff done. You just have to do it.

Here are 6 steps to overcoming your obstacle, or lack of motivation:

  • Step 1: Designate an empty journal to be your motivational daily journal.
  • Step 2: Take an hour to sit down with pen and journal, and write what you really want in life. Really think about it. Maybe this is a mission statement. Maybe it’s an overall goal you wish to accomplish in life. Make it broad and all-encompassing.
  • Step 3: Write down some overall goals to keep your eye on the ball.
      • Keep your new mission statement in mind when you write these goals down. These should be monthly, tangible goals. Or any kind of goal that you can accomplish in little steps, one step at a time. They don’t necessarily need to be monthly.
  • Step 4: Write down a few baby steps to do every single day. That’s easy enough to do, right? You don’t even need to be motivated that day, just write down the steps.
      • Anything you write down in your journal for the day, must be done!
      • For example, if one of your bigger goals is to loose 20 pounds, start with something small and easy that you’re comfortable with. 10 minutes on the treadmill a day. Or 10 situps.
  • Step 5: Slowly build up your daily tasks everyday. If you’re not up for that yet, just keep consistent with your current baby steps.
  • Step 6: Stay strong and vigilant. You are building a new, healthier lifestyle. Get up and make yourself do these steps every day, and time will give you your results. You have to stay consistent, though! It’s okay if you mess up, just keep going.

One question listed at the above link that really stuck with me was, “What makes you smile?” It took me a minute to think of the answer because there are a lot of things that make me smile on the inside. However, that’s not the question. I realized the things that make me genuinely smile the most have been things I had been neglecting and straying from. (Like being crazy and silly and dancing for no reason, like my random carousel picture!).

Some of the other questions on there really helped me develop my mission statement, which I don’t mind sharing: “To follow my passions wherever they lead me, make an impact on the greater community, genuinely smile often, love, and grow, while maintaining financial freedom. This, to me, is success.”

What makes you smile?

Stay Fierce!!

Briauna Mariah (:

  1 comment for “Finding Motivation if You’ve Lost it

  1. annmarie grant
    23rd April 2013 at 4:43 am

    I think you got the picture after talking with MOM. you are on the right track but you are also growing and need to find another challenge is all. She is right take it one tiny step at a time but do it every day and they all add up to an ultimate destination, read a little , exercise a little, watch your diet a little, work at your nerium 1 or 2 people a day. nothing more , nothing less, and you will accomplish another NEW YORK moment.this picture of you and randy is great.

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